Psychology

Interview with Bryan Nixon, a therapist at and founder of Mindful Counseling GR in Grand Rapids, MI. Here we discuss therapeutic modality and the relationship with the client. Choosing to enter therapy is an important and often a difficult decision. Listening to these...

Humanity is triggered because of what we value. Our Values and stories about them form the foundation of our emotional experience. We feel strongly when what we value is met (satisfaction, love, or joy) or violated (rage, sorrow, or frustration).

Exploring the nature of self-control, the connection it has to empathy, and the picture we have of our ideal self. Reading from The Atlantic article “Self-Control is Just Empathy with Your Future Self” by Ed Yong. We can think of self-control as the “present” you...

(31) The Values of Behavior

(31) The Values of Behavior

The values of behavior explain how a particular behavior supports our deep need to construct a reality that makes sense to us.

(30) Pathologizing Human Behavior

(30) Pathologizing Human Behavior

Human behavior is often thought of as an inherent trait in others but we will excuse the same behavior in ourselves as a result of circumstances.

(29) The Story of Your Anger

(29) The Story of Your Anger

Your anger, often labeled as “bad”, is a great way of knowing what is important to you. We do not get angry about things we don’t care about.

(23) Stop Hiding Behind Labels

(23) Stop Hiding Behind Labels

Stop hiding behind labels, subsuming a whole person to a single characteristic, one label no matter how powerful its meaning, is to hold that person up to an impossible standard and lead to dismissal in the pursuit of purity. The struggle between the individualistic...

(17) Our Self-Limiting Stories

When exploring our self-limiting stories, it can be helpful to consider each of us as tiny lenses peering through a dark veil covering the whole of reality. We only identify what’s important based on the lens or identity we’ve pre-selected as being who we believe...

(16) The Lure of Fanaticism

(16) The Lure of Fanaticism

We often create stories to address one problem, only to have it take on a life of its own. More difficult is when such a story is religion and the tendency towards fanaticism or absolutism, is a strong psychological pull.

(13) Our Emotions Are Never Left Behind

(13) Our Emotions Are Never Left Behind

Viewing emotions as discrete entities allows us to box them up, set them aside and ignore them. Or at least attempt to do so. Quite often we look at them as obstacles to overcome, giant boulders on the path of life. We move forward using the supposed power of...